WHAT DID YOU MEAN BY THAT?

Something to Think About

If you have been married for a while, the above question is not strange to you.

Actually, if you are making plans to marry, the question is already familiar. When

two people discuss something, misunderstandings are possible. The reason is

that there is the “sender,” the one who speaks, and there is the “receiver,” the one

who is listening.

The challenge is how we understand and listen to what our spouse is saying.

Arguments begin when it is obvious we heard half of what our spouse is telling

us. And though we did not hear, we think we have the answers. Women communicate

differently from men, expressing what they say with emotions. Men, on the other hand

speak on the factual side. It is not a contradiction but a great way to balance each other.

Also, a spouse may have pent up hurts for some time without letting you know. Then,

words come out permeated with pain, anger and sad feelings.

The suggestion is, do not attempt to stop it but be attentive, making sure your eyes do not

look everywhere, in particular to the wall, the television or your watch.

As amazing as it may sound, marriage does not create problems, but it is the means that

reveals unresolved con€icts before the marriage. Facing present problems avoids the growth

of negative trends, remembering that our personality traits aect the manner problems are

approached. Bear in mind you love each other, and now the time has come to accept

certain realities. To accomplish that, give yourselves enough time allowing new perspective

to come into your hearts. It will work. Ask yourselves this question: Why would a couple

argue over certain matters when they are meant to love, to shine and to be blessed!

This does not mean nothing has happened, but it means to build bridges between your

hearts, instead of destroying them.

What we say matters, and how we say it, matters even more! Good communication wins

because options are open, perspective remains clear, and hearts are renewed. To mention

the past does not help. Instead, look at the future together building each other up. Consider

the needs of your spouse, and then open that part of your heart, that God calls it

forgiveness. Remember, you are not alone in forgiving. God knows about it. When the Lord

Jesus died on a cross for us, God, our Heavenly Father forgave. And when you consider it,

then, that is “something to think about.”

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Pastor Ed

All Nations Christian

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